Death

Seven years ago, I did a self-reflective exercise on death. However, instead of writing an obituary, I used my imagination to transfer myself to the day I will die. I pictured all my accomplishments and everything that I dreamed of: having the wedding of my dreams (I was engaged at that time), having children, a nice house, a bank account with enough, my family around, and everybody health and happy. In all of that, I didn't feel complete or happy, instead I felt a deep pain in my chest that even gave me a bitter taste in my mouth. From all my goals and dreams, there was one main thing (the most important one) I hadn't achieved: what I believe God called me to do. Due to my religious background, death to me is not the end, but the beginning; and life, to me, is all about that beginning. I feel that my call is to help other people, so that day I changed my life completely to that purpose and since then my main goal is to help other people. I got married and indeed had the wedding of my dreams, but my husband has the same goal as mine, and we are making the effort to achieve that.
Death has come close to me more than I expected, first during a intense airplane turbulence  that made more than half of the passengers to throw up or pass out. Second, when my husband was deployed and I received phone calls or messages of incidents in his team. And third, when I started to work in a nursing home. My husband and I engage in some high risk sports to challenge ourselves and in the end I think it helps me to control fear; stress management.  The book calls it an attempt to overcome death anxiety - I never thought that was what we were doing.
We also talked about having a durable power of attorney for health care decisions, just so in case of dispute, such as what happened in Terri's case, we wouldn't have any problems. I think our biggest concern is not about death itself, but if we are incapacitated to make our own decisions. And I can understand that because I have patients that are in hospice/comfort care - some conscious and others not due to pain medication.  At a point they are not responsive anymore, so we do our best to provide comfort. In one case, a patient was begging for his life and he held my hands as if I could pull him out of his pain. Medication did not help, even morphine didn't work. Unexpectedly, he was comforted only by religious music. It calmed him down, and at that night he passed away, apparently in peace, having his family around.
I try to avoid my emotions getting the best of me, but I always feel the loss of any patient. I hold my thoughts during my shift and after that I come home and seek comfort from my husband or family. I go through a short period of bereavement. I don't think I'm used to death or that I'll ever be, but I find relief to think that I can provide dignity and comfort for those who are facing it.

Retirement

Although chapters 14 and 15 covered a great deal of biological and cognitive functions related to the aging process, which always catch my attention, the article “As Good as it Gets” was my main focus of this week. This article attracted my curiosity due to the sharp tone of the writer. The way I read the article could be summarized in the words of Professor Gerard F. Anderson of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health: “'The European attitude is, we're all in this together and sooner or later we're all going to become older and need some help. The U.S. attitude is, we're all rugged individualists and we're going to take care of ourselves, not others”

It’s more compelling to see retirement and quality of life for the elderly as the focus of this article. But, I’m not sure about that. Mostly, because AARP is a main advertiser of health insurance for seniors, and though it is a non-profit group, their $458 million in health insurance revenue in 2011 might claim differently.

Anyways, the article goes through the success of Netherlands’ healthcare and retirement system, and how the elderly are living so well over there in comparison to Americans.  It’s true that the Dutch system of converting workers’ pension’s reserves into an annuity upon retirement seems to work better than the defined contribution plan (such as 401K plans) practiced by most Americans. The duality that I see here is government retirement safety versus employee’s participation and contribution decisions. In my opinion, retirement boils down to one point: saving for later; whether this is ‘saving’ through taxes and federal mandatory contributions under heavy government management, or saving in private bank accounts and investing the money as each person believes is the best way.

Furthermore, I agree that the healthcare system needs health competition, so leaving it solely to business or to government will not end up well. A balance sounds like a better deal for everybody. Nevertheless, this is not a political post, so I’m not going to spend much time talking about healthcare reform. Instead, my main point about this article is that for a fast aging population that is living longer, and will have less active workers to support the retirement system costs, there is no easy and comfortable solution. As exemplified  in the article, “In Sweden, with its low birth rate and increasing number of pensioners, experts estimate that by 2035 the system will be seriously out of balance, with only about two workers supporting each older person.” Then, it’s just pure math to figure it out that system will fail as much as the American system might too.  Truth is that the elderly are facing and will face an even greater stress when it comes to retirement, which will contribute negatively for their mental and physical health. I think portraying one's country retirement success momentum is deceptive for a long term solution, and that's why I don't agree much with this article.

 

Middle adulthood

Since I'm in my early 30's, I think chapter 12 was really something I can relate to. For over 10 years I've worked with software, and by 27 years old,  I was already an IT project manager. I made fairly good money and felt that I had a good job, but the idea  of just becoming more senior in my profession made me feel...empty.
Then, I met my husband. We happily got married and my life changed completely when I moved to U.S. I had to face unemployment for a while because chances for a young project manager in the middle of a economic recovery in America were really low. Just as our book described, I felt hopeless and worthless. Moreover, it was the worse time to be unemployed because my husband was deployed overseas and I was by myself. It was not finances that concerned me, but I had to get my mind busy with something beneficial. In the middle of a "life crisis", my husband and I decided to make a radical change in order to pursue what we felt was our calling for this life: helping others.
He separated from the military and both of us went back to college. I'm pursuing a career as a nurse and currently working as a certified nurse assistant in a nursing home. I can absolutely relate to the part of  burnout that is mentioned in our book. It's extremely tiring to work in health care and many times copying with death is not easy too. However, their well being is what makes me come back every time. I can not describe  how much more I feel satisfied helping someone taking a shower and feeling better about themselves than accomplish an IT project that was worth almost a million dollar.
Different of Super's theory, the consolidation phase didn't happen to me, but instead was a complete change of careers.
My final goal is not just becoming a nurse. My husband and I want to go on missions overseas to help other people.

Divorce

What caught my attention during this week was the subject divorce. I think it means a lot to me because I’m married and also I’ve seen too many friends and family going through this situation.

Our book states that United States is ranking third in divorce compared to other countries. Surprisingly, it’s very hard to find accurate data about divorce around the world. That happens because most countries don’t report data at the time that UN or other organization are creating the reports. But what I consistently found in my searches is that U.S is ranking as the first in divorce, and that divorce, as an overall, increased around the world throughout years; another intriguing information is that divorce is increasing also among homosexual couples.

To this point, I think it’s safe to state that divorce is pandemic, but why? Our book describes the main reasons as macro level social issues, demographic variables, and interpersonal problems, but warns to use carefully predictive models as they don’t cover all complexities involved in the divorce process.

I personally think that, ultimately, it is because we are getting more and more selfish – exceptions for cases of abuse, drugs and mental disorders. Most of my friends and family that got divorced was due to difference of interest. Each one had a different “need” that was not covered and they felt the other part was just too selfish or incapable of fulfilling that. I guess marriage became another product in the shelf; if you are not satisfied just return the product and get a new one - according to the American Psychological Association, around 50% of married couples in U.S divorce. Consumerism mentality has magnified this intrinsic selfishness, making it almost impossible for us to maintain a deep, long lasting and intimate relationship with another human being, in my opinion.

Teens

This week, the article “Inside the Teen Brain” called my attention. I think part of that is because it touches base with hormonal disturbances, but also approaches changes in brain development that are still ongoing in teens.

From previous week’s material, I already knew that synaptic pruning would happen until teenage age. But it seems that the prefrontal cortex, the seat of civilization, is not completely developed in teens. Plus, the advent of puberty inserts a roller-coaster of sexual hormones that are not very well regulated. The article also mentions that myelination is not complete until early 20s, and this process seems to be important in creating connections with areas in the brain that regulate emotions.  In a study titled “Steroid hormone signaling between Schwann cells and neurons regulates the rate of myelin synthesis” researches argue that “progesterone was capable of increasing the rate of myelin synthesis in Schwann cell”. And in another study titled “The neural androgen receptor: a therapeutic target for myelin repair in chronic demyelination”, it was pointed out that testosterone is also involved in myelination process.

However, the myelination occurs faster in girls than boys, which could explain why girls are more emotionally mature than boys…to a point. When it comes to menstrual cycle I don’t think most women, whether teenagers or older women, are very emotionally mature. This thought made me look into data about birth control pills or devices that use synthetic hormones, and I found out at the CDC website the following information:

“ Sixty-two percent of women of reproductive age are currently using contraception. Of women using a contraceptive method in the month of the interview, the most common methods used are the pill (28%, or 10.6 million women) and female sterilization (27%, or 10.2 million women). Use of intrauterine devices as a current method has increased since 1995 (from 0.8% in 1995 to 5.6% in 2006–2010), whereas fewer women report that their partners are using condoms as their current, most effective contraceptive method”

If most women are using hormonal control, does that mean that it contributes for our maturity, a.k.a controlling our emotions?  Pills are taken on a daily basis, so I’m wondering if ultimately we are manipulating our myelination rather than just balancing it. It might be a stretch to say that pills are the sole reason for emotional control, but I would argue they might be giving us a good boost.

 

Media and Socialization

This week, media and socialization caught my attention. I thought the video about the influence in gender roles/gender stereotypes by Disney movies was  interesting.
The video pointed out the heavy influence of TV on children social behavior, and specifically addressed Disney videos in the stereotype view of man and women.
I feel that every children's story book, toys and clothes are a representation of stereotypes. I believe things are this way because this is the value of our society. Our society is patriarchal but not so extreme as it was in the past. I can agree with the video about the stereotype of the skinny woman being detrimental though. However, I think it can be prejudicial if children only watch Disney videos and don't have any other contact with other sources.
I really enjoyed what the Shrek movie did with the classic Disney stories. It made evident all the stereotypes but kept the core value and characteristics of man and women intact - Shrek is strong, brave but could learn to be lovely and kind while Fiona is the princess that can do a lot for herself but still was waiting for her prince. I think the combination of both movies are a great tool to teach kids about stereotypes.
Children see and process information different from adults. Scientists at UCL (University College London) and Birkbeck, University of London have found that children younger than 12 do not combine different sensory information to make sense of the world as adults do. It means that children are able to separate information and notice differences that for adults are not perceived anymore due to sensory fusion. Although the Shrek movie was obviously different from Disney classics, I think children can better separate what is a stereotype and what is a normal pattern of gender role in our society.
Using TV can be a tool to increment children's education and produce awesome results but leaning on extremes (just school, just home, just TV, just Internet, etc) will probably end up being prejudicial for socialization and higher cognitive development.

ADHD

During this week, the two other stages of Piaget’s cognitive development theory (concrete operation and formal-operational periods) were explored. On top of that, other cognitive development theories were mentioned as well school system and educational development.

It was interesting to me the discussion about ADHD. I think I don’t agree with most of what I read in chapter 6 about that. First, ADHD is portrayed as a negative behavior and, thus, called disorder. According to hunter vs farmer hypothesis, proposed by Thom Hartman, ADHD might have been an adaptive behavior for hunters; this hypothesis is corroborated by a studied conducted with a group of Kenyan nomads ( BMC Evolutionary Biology, 2008). Furthermore, throughout history, many outstanding people such as Bill Gates, Henry Ford, Walt Disney, and Abraham Lincoln, have displayed traits of ADHD or similar learning disorders.

The book addressed the growth of ADHD diagnosis as a concrete fact other than a misdiagnosis. Personally, I think “attention” is subjective enough to lead to misdiagnosis. Furthermore, sitting in a chair for hours to be lectured sounds to be more abnormal to human behavior than driving attention to what is more interesting. Maybe the problem is not about attention, but about discipline (being able to follow orders and having self-control).

Schools are standardized institutions that try to level understand and information. That is quite a challenge, in my view, as each one of us is different and has specific ways to learn. According to an article in smithsonian.com website, Finland’s schools have the most successful results with students because teachers are trusted to do whatever it takes to get student to learn (Hancock, 2011). In another study, conducted among the population of northern Finland, researchers found out that “half of children diagnosed with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD, exhibit the cognitive defects commonly associated with the condition” (Wheeler, 2008). The study was published first in Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. Curiously, the study also examined the efficacy of medication for ADHD comparing children in United States (normally receive medication) and Finland (rarely treated with medicine). The results about progress and improvement were relatively the same in both groups, which raises important issues about efficacy of this type of medication.

Finally, my husband has been diagnosed with ADHD when he was a kid. He was hyperactive and had difficult to self-control his impulses. Medication was available, but his mother decided to have a different approach and put him in a private tutoring that provided one on one interaction. It worked for him – he finished high school.

After 10 years out of school, now he is in College, and he can actually pay attention for a long period of time while he is studying (something I can’t do). He can pay attention in two different things at the same time (watching TV and reading something else). It’s almost annoying, but he can actually pay attention on both – I have quizzed him extensively about what we were watching on TV and what he was reading; he answered everything correctly and very accurate. I found out that he is able to pay attention for a long period of time if he is listening to music at the same time. He “functions” better when multitasking. In this case I ask myself who has the disorder then?

 

I think ADHD is a problem especially if that causes social interaction impairment. But, as far as education, it's my opinion, that lots of children has been medicated when the long term solution was a non conventional teaching approach.

Works Cited

BMC Evolutionary Biology. (2008, June 10). Is ADHD An Advantage For Nomadic Tribesmen? Retrieved May 3, 2014, from ScienceDaily: www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/06/080609195604.htm

Hancock, L. (2011, September). Why Are Finland's Schools Successful? Retrieved May 3, 2014, from Smithsonian magazine: http://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/why-are-finlands-schools-successful-49859555/?page=1

Wheeler, M. (2008, January 22). Study raises questions about diagnosis, medical treatment of ADHD. Retrieved May 3, 2014, from UCLA newsroom: http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/new-thinking-revealed-about-adhd-43193